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  • Writer's pictureSheila Kamuda

An Oldie but a Goodie - Gratitude

Updated: Jul 1, 2020

Yes, I'm asking you to be thankful. Thankful for all those damn life lessons. Thankful for being beautiful, amazing, uniquely you. Thankful you get to create your reality. And thankful for whatever is flung your way.

We've all been through some hideous events. But right now let's find something to appreciate about all of those. Yes, all of those. So stay with me. For everything that is happening or has happened, fill in the blank: This is good because ___________________________________

I'll start you off:

I didn't get the job.

This is good because the commute would have been hell, and it would have made me super crabby and joyless to be around. I probably would have lost friends due to my constant whining.

I didn't get the promotion.

This is good because I learned so much through this process. Now I'm equipped to go for something even better. That was just my rehearsal. Now I can go for the real deal. I know what I really want. So watch out.

Another project just got dumped in my lap.

This is good because it's teaching me how to be resilient. How not to react. How to learn something new. How to do it better than the last guy. How to decide if I've had enough of this Mickey Mouse operation.

I just tried on that gorgeous outfit and what?!?!?!? I can't get the zipper up?

This is good because it's about time I started eating more fruits and vegetables. And drinking water. And walking more. I've been yammering about it long enough. Today is the day.

My partner is reluctant to pick up those dirty socks from the floor. For the hundredth time.

This is good because I'm finally "getting" what my partner is all about. I can finally respect my partner's values and realize they're not the same as mine. And I can decide whether picking up socks is a deal breaker.

My friend bailed on me and now I have no one to go on vacation with.

This is good because I don't have to be stuck eating in restaurants i don't like just to be nice. I don't have to share a room or get up when my friend does, and I can sightsee whatever the hell I want. I can finally feel free and proud of myself for taking this trip on my own.

The condo fell through - grr!

This is good because I would have to take three jobs just to pay the mortgage, someone from Pluto must have calculated the enormous HOA dues, and it's showing me not to be so impulsive every time I see a sunken living room.

The person interviewing me was super late and kept me waiting for half an hour.

This is good because it helps me to stop putting people on a pedestal. To stop thinking everyone is better than me. To realize I'm interviewing them too. And above all, to value myself more.

The list is endless.

It takes nothing to complain. Some of us make it our life's work. Much harder to find something to appreciate about the situation. That takes much more effort. But there is something about appreciation that elevates you. That puts you operating on a different level. And sometimes those horrendous situations turn out to be the best thing ever.

I'm just saying appreciate it now. Not five years from now when you realize how great it was that you got dumped or your partner moved away, and you bumped into the love of your life. Or chanced upon the best job you've ever had, or your lifelong friends were those you met because you went here on vacation instead of there. And your heart was set on there.

So what does this have to do with success? This, my friend, is the path to success. I know it's hard to believe. But this is the way. Your career will soar. You life will soar. Just give it a try. The more you practice, the easier it will be. And when you hear other people bellyaching about their lives, you'll look at them like they have two heads, wondering what the hell they're yammering about, when they can simply turn things around by appreciating this moment.

Ok. Go back to your old ways if you must. But you'll be happier if you stay on the appreciation track. Just finish the sentence: This is good because _______________.

If this resonates with you, I'd love to give you what I have found to be so valuable.

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