Be Your Own Cheering Committee
Updated: Dec 11, 2020
We look to our friends, spouse, partner to cheer us on. To give us the green light. The go ahead to pursue our dreams.
And when they don't, and there might be some eye rolling, or a very plain are you crazy? this stops us dead in our tracks. Sometimes we even think they are the reason we didn't go for it. Dare I say we blame them?
This means we just sit on our dreams unless someone says "go for it." And we may be sitting for a long time. Maybe forever.
This probably started with our parents, if they were loving. They looked at us day and night, cooed at us hugged us, cheered us on, said how proud they were of us. This planted a seed that we would need to hear someone give us permission or validation the rest of our lives.
But now we're grown up, and what if we don't have a cheering committee or even one person to give us that support?
Here's what I've learned being on my own for eight years now. Lost the love of my life in 2012, and I was always pretty strong willed, but it sure felt good when he cheered me on.
And you know what I realized after he had gone? I'm a party of one. No one is coming. I need to do it on my own. It's up to me. Might seem a little harsh but also quite liberating.
I need to feel good about my ideas, worthy, proud of myself. And you know what? It feels really good.
We shouldn't have to depend on anyone outside of ourselves to tell us our idea is great or it stinks. And maybe they can't understand our vision. Because it is OUR vision. And you might give up on a brilliant idea or inspiration because of someone else's opinion.
So, it's time for you to believe in yourself and not look to anyone for acceptance, permission, approval, support. The only person you need lives inside you.
Learn to trust yourself. Learn to love yourself. Learn to be your own guide.